An individual who’s “on the sofa” is understood to be in remedy, however most therapists lately don’t ask their shoppers to lie down. The primary time mine did, I resisted. I didn’t wish to be on show or unable to see her reactions. Plus, the concept appeared antiquated. Sigmund Freud was impressed to make use of the sofa greater than a century after observing dramatic hypnotherapy demonstrations by his trainer Jean-Martin Charcot. In psychoanalysis, Freud thought a therapist being out of view would assist folks entry feelings or recollections that may be repressed. (He additionally mentioned that he couldn’t “put up with being stared at by different folks for eight hours a day.”)
A lot of Freud’s concepts concerning the unconscious haven’t held up, however he could have been onto one thing with the sofa, as I found after I ultimately adopted my therapist’s suggestion. The sofa may not be for everybody, however it could possibly be price a strive.
At present, therapists’ workplaces nonetheless nearly at all times have a sofa. For his guide, Within the Shadow of Freud’s Sofa, Mark Gerald, a psychologist skilled in psychoanalysis, took portraits of therapists of their workplaces, and “it was a uncommon room that didn’t have a sofa,” he advised me. “Any individual as soon as talked about they really by no means used the sofa with their sufferers, but when they didn’t have a sofa, they wouldn’t really feel like a psychoanalyst.”
Regardless of the ubiquity of the therapist’s sofa, analysis on situations when it’s and isn’t useful is restricted. Some sufferers in case research report that they’ve missed seeing their therapists’ face once they lie down, whereas others have used the sofa to keep away from direct face-to-face communication. Even Freud wasn’t at all times strict concerning the sofa. He additionally took walks along with his sufferers; he famously analyzed the composer Gustav Mahler throughout a four-hour stroll round Leiden.
However for me—and, I think, many others—sometimes mendacity down may present some aid from the social facets of speaking with a therapist.The connection between a therapist and a shopper gained’t totally disappear, and that dynamic could be helpful to look at in remedy too. But many remedy shoppers place an excessive amount of emphasis on interpersonal dynamics. On social media, folks make jokes about how a lot they wish to get an A+ in remedy or make a therapist chuckle; I’ve felt the identical pressures myself. That stress could possibly be lowered if you’re mendacity down and bodily incapable of scanning your therapist’s face for indicators of approval or displeasure. And in a time when many individuals have switched to teletherapy, looking at your therapist’s face (or your individual) over Zoom can really feel like a piece assembly gone fallacious.
On a really simplistic degree, the sofa presents a change in perspective—actually. The traditional Greeks and Romans reclined throughout banquets, which created an environment of consolation and intimacy, says Nathan Kravis, a psychiatrist and historian of psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical School who’s additionally the writer of On the Sofa. Within the trendy world, mendacity down signifies that the dialog you’re about to have in remedy is a special sort of interplay than these you will have with household or mates. It’s a time to confront troublesome ideas, admit shortcomings, or discover wishes with out the relational obligations to these we all know in our “actual” life. “Its strangeness is a part of the facility,” Kravis advised me. “It actually has no parallel wherever else in our social world.”
Mendacity down may higher fulfill folks’s starvation for a extra artistic and humanistic type of remedy. Over the previous few years, curiosity in psychoanalysis has made a dramatic comeback, although the method nonetheless makes up a minority of remedy periods. Different therapeutic strategies, reminiscent of cognitive behavioral remedy, goal to alter ideas and behaviors that aren’t working for you; psychoanalysis, in contrast, focuses on self-exploration. I did CBT for years, and it’s very efficient at fixing issues. But one thing a few therapeutic follow that’s not as goal-oriented could be therapeutic. After I began to lie down, I felt that I used to be selecting to create space for reflection, grief, processing, and growing intimacy with my very own thoughts in a world the place such acts aren’t normally prioritized.
Mendacity down for remedy periods may make a follow that’s pricey in each money and time really feel much more indulgent, and I’m positive that some folks merely wouldn’t prefer it. Nevertheless it’s accessible to everybody to strive no less than as soon as. Mendacity down is a method, not an finish purpose, Ahron Friedberg, a licensed psychoanalyst and board-certified psychiatrist, advised me. It could possibly be a manner of cultivating consolation, intimacy, and reflection, or talking in a way that you simply’re not used to—to your self or to a therapist.
In Gerald’s workplace, he offers decisions. There’s a chair instantly throughout from the place he sits. There’s a sofa, just lately changed as a result of the unique turned saggy from years of use. A few of Gerald’s sufferers at all times lie down; others put it aside for once they’re feeling overwhelmed. One affected person normally sits up however will curl up right into a ball on the sofa when she’s going by way of a troublesome time. Kravis mentioned he talks with a brand new shopper face-to-face, then offers them the choice of mendacity down after a session or two. “It’s not necessary,” he mentioned. “You’re not Velcroed to the sofa.”
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